Cozy Mystery at Facebook

How long has Facebook been in existence? About ten years? So many years that it is now being overshadowed by other social media networks?

Well, after ten years of dragging my feet, I have gone and done it! My husband finally talked me into getting a Facebook account for the Cozy Mystery site. He convinced me that it was finally time to join the 21st century. (So far I have three people who have liked it, and one person who thought I was someone else – a Kyle, who she has been trying to contact for a while.)

I have been up on Facebook ( since December 6. I’m really not sure what all I am supposed to be doing there. My husband set up my account and said that all of my blog entries would automatically post there, and that I should check the site every once in a while. Of course, I should mention that my husband is not a Facebook aficionado, either.

The most “familiar” we ever got to Facebook was when a professor of my daughter’s insisted she join it so that she (as well as all of his other students) could get messages through its system. I don’t suppose that “familiar” would be the word, but it could work >>> since it was someone in my family who joined.

Changes don’t come easily for me. They never have. I am one of those types of people who would still be using rotary phones and watching the three major networks on a black and white television. I actually had a little black and white television that I watched before I married my husband. I simply didn’t think it necessary to get a better TV >>> I wasn’t a Luddite, but as a teacher not making a whole lot of money, I was happy to use an old TV of my parents… and I mean old! My husband introduced me to compact discs, DVDs, and millions of channels via cable TV. He also coaxed me into using the internet, for which I am very grateful.

For the time being, I am still using my Samsung telephone that is not APP compatible. (I guess you would call it a dumb-phone, versus a Smartphone.) My antiquated cell phone may not be able to do fancy tricks, but I can wear an earplug/microphone that works way better than any Bluetooth.

I guess I’m wandering from the topic (again!) but anyway, the Cozy Mystery site now has a Facebook page.

UPDATE: I just realized that maybe I wasn’t clear about my Facebook page. The Cozy Mystery site will not be affected at all, nor will the blog. I expect that I will be dabbling on Facebook, but this site is not going to change.


  1. Alexis says

    I think all of us Boomers are fed up with the ever present digital world. I grew up without a TV until we got a small black and white, our phones were only 1 and rotary. We talked around the dinner table, did not retreat after dinner to technology and as a result grew up with better social skills, communication ability and were close to our parents. I never owned a VHS until the mid 80’s and did not put much value on sitting around watching movies. We grew up reading and communicating, doing family activities. the young kids today act as if they cannot live without it which is sad. My problem with FB is security, FB cannot promise us security so I opt not to use it. I do not Twit, Blog, or Insta. And I get along just fine!

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Alexis, I am not a technological type of person, but my husband is. If it weren’t for him, there is no way I would EVER have been able to set up the Cozy Mystery site.

      I have to admit that I have sort of gotten on the bandwagon, though. I am now asking him about setting up the Cozy Mystery site on a place called Pinterest. (Apparently that is the new Facebook.)

  2. Patti S. says

    My husband and I finally broke down and got our first cell phone on Monday! We have not felt the need to have one up till now. I don’t do the social networking thing, never felt the need to share every thing I do with others. That is just me. I guess I am old fashioned. Love the 30’s and 40’s, B & W movies, old time radio shows. I guess I will gradually get with the times. By the way, did you know that there is a new book out about Barbara Stanwyck? I noticed it when I was looking on the TCM site yesterday. Look under the books section. Good luck with your Facebook page!

    • Kathy says

      Well, I’m a boomer and I love the new technology. I keep thinking about things that would have been so much easier if I’d only had a cell phone at the time they happened. You are up to 29 likes. I don’t pay much attention to FB traffic, but I think 29 likes in a little more than 10 days is pretty good for a page that isn’t advertised or linked to lots of blogs. I don’t see the point of announcing where you are or what you are doing, so I don’t. I find it a very good method to keep in touch with younger friends and relatives, and I must admit, I’m often pleased to see where they are and what they are doing. FB pages grow with just a little nurturing, so you may discover a whole new audience. Welcome to the digital age!

      • Danna - cozy mystery list says

        Kathy, it’s funny you mentioned “I keep thinking about things that would have been so much easier if I’d only had a cell phone at the time they happened.” I just finished a Christmas mystery book that was written in 1998. I actually looked up the publishing date because at first I thought it was pretty silly that the main sleuth couldn’t get ahold of her side-kick sleuth because he was never at home. Once I saw “1998” I stayed with the book. However, it it had been a book published in 2010, I would have thought: “Time to stop reading! Idiot Plot!”

        (Before I let my husband put the Facebook page up, I made sure there were no “dislikes” available. That’s the last thing I want to see!)

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Oh my gosh, Patti S! You’re less techno than even I am!

      Thanks for telling me about a new Barbara Stanwyck biography. It’s funny that you mentioned it. I talked to my aunt yesterday and she told me that she had just read a Johnny Carson biography. She told me that she was sorry she read it because it made him look like an awful man, and that she had enjoyed him so much on his Johnny Carson show. that’s the funny thing about biographies >>> You may learn too much about someone you enjoyed so much…

  3. ginger g. says

    Danna I just wanted to let you my dad is in the hospital and has been since night. They did a procedure today and found 2 blockages, one under the arm and the other where the old pacemaker was. They unblocked the one where the pacemaker was and the blood flow started very quickly. They said over the next 2 weeks that his left arm should go down. Do not know what they are going to do about the other blockage. Just wanted to update everybody and Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Happy Reading and I hope many books come your way.

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Oh, Ginger, I am sorry to hear that your dad had unforeseen complications from his surgery last month. His doctors sound like they know exactly what to do for him, though. I know this is a very difficult time for you, and hope that things improve quickly.

  4. Barbara says

    I have a “dumb” phone, also. The young man who took my order tried very hard to sell me one that had all the the bells and whistles. When I told him I did not need a phone that would sing, dance and make coffee, he gave up and found one I could operate. Two years ago one of my sons was visiting and insisted I needed a Facebook account so I could see pictures of the grands and great-grands. A few months later I tried to open my account and found it frozen, because someone from the Far East had tried to access it without authorization. I decided to close it right then. Would be nice if someone sent snapshops again. I guess that is another thing that is out-of-date. Hope your Facebook page is a great success.

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Barbara, I agree about getting “real” pictures. I’m not crazy about the new picture albums people enjoy. Sure, it was inconvenient waiting a week to get your film developed, but once it was, you could actually “own” the pictures and not have to sit at your computer (or smartphone) to enjoy them.

      (Now, if there was a phone that would actually “sing, dance and make coffee” I might at least think about switching!)

  5. Susan* says

    Technology… Sometimes I think we’d be better off without it all, but it does have it’s uses. (And I have made some very good friends online – some of whom I’ve even met in person!!)
    To quote Alexis: “My problem with FB is security, FB cannot promise us security so I opt not to use it. I do not Twit, Blog, or Insta. And I get along just fine!” AMEN!!
    I have an FB account, but I rarely use it. I might have to add the Cozy Mystery Site, though. :)
    I too, have a ‘dumbphone’ – I like that phrase! – but I don’t really need or want more. I’m not that old, but sometimes I do feel it!
    Best of luck, anyway, with the new stuff, and even if that never goes anywhere – Thanks for ‘this’ site!

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Susan*, so far I’m only adding the actual blog entries to the Cozy Mystery Facebook page. As of now, I really am quite lost on it. My husband is a big help with it, although so far he has had to go to his computer and take time to figure out what to do when I have a question. (He said he thinks a one-floor house might be in order!)

      I tried one of the “more modern” phones a few years ago, but I hated the bluetooth reception and people on the other end of the line would constantly need me to repeat myself. That’s when I went back to my dumbphone with the earplug/microphone line. I found the phone at Best Buy, and bought three of them – just in case my current one goes bad. I love my phone!

  6. Marja says

    Hi Danna, I sure hope this doesn’t mean you’ll be moving to Facebook altogether. I don’t “do” Facebook either. There’s a lot I’m missing, but there’s a lot more there that I’m not missing in the least!

    Yep … I’m forever behind the times. I’m just someone who likes using something until it cannot be fixed. I had a black & white TV into the mid-1980s. I’ve never bought a new car. And, like you, I have a DumbPhone too :-)

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Marja, with regards to your television choices: we sound like sisters of a different mother! I just never saw a reason to upgrade something that worked. I have to admit, though, when watching a television show everyone in the room had to be quiet: the volume control on my old black and white wasn’t quite up to par.

      • says

        Thanks Marja, Danna, and everyone else who confessed to being at least somewhat computer illiterate like I am. I do have a Facebook page now though and sometimes visit others or writers whose books I like from time to time. Of course our Danna’s mystery blog is my favorite because that’s what I like to read and write best. Keep all those good books coming and Happy Holidays to all of us.
        Group Cyber Hugs,
        Jackie Griffey

  7. Deahna says

    Well, I’m old-fashioned, too. My cell is a Nokia that’s really not smart – it even tends to forget its own adress book which means I better have a few numbers in my head or written down somewhere. My parent did have a b&w TV but my time in front of it was strictly regimented and I never missed it. Even now the TV is off more often than on and there are many evenings when all I do is read the news on teletext. On the other hand I learned to read early and still love re-creating the worlds and people in my head. I’m not into social media and I still feel most comfortable with forums or boards rather than blogs (this is the only one I comment on fairly regularly – and that’s not that often!) and I refuse to join FB or Twitter or WhatsApp or however they are all called.
    Most of all, I am comfortable with myself and can spend a lot of time alone without the need of constant stimulation via TV, radio, social media, texting, rushing around, …

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Deahna, my father was just so cheap, he refused to pay for a color television. He probably was “forced” to buy one when I took the old black and white. (I have a lot of my dad in me, as I never see the reason for having to upgrade on things. My husband, however, is quite the opposite.)

      (I’m glad you comment on the Cozy Mystery blog!)

  8. Diane says

    Like you, I’m a recent convert to Facebook. I’m a librarian and we’re supposed to be on top of all the social media, so thought I’d better give it a try. I’ve been perfectly happy reading your blog and am not sure why Facebook is/should be better. Guess we’ll all find out.

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Diane, I think that our librarians are supposed to be up on all of the techno happenings, also. I remember when I first got my Kindle. I found out that our library teaches people how to use them.

      (I am techno-savvy enough that I didn’t need their help, but I have to admit that my husband had to teach me how to make my different folders on it. Because of all the Free and Cheap Kindle deals, I downloaded so many books that it took too long to scroll down the list. My folders make it a lot easier.)

  9. Diana says

    I finally broke down and signed up for Facebook the first of October. I too did not want everyone to know every move that I make. However you only have to put on it what you want and it is a good way to stay in touch with friends and relatives. I love reading the newsfeeds and do not put alot of info about myself on my Timeline. I really do enjoy it though. I will look up your facebook page and join. Thanks for everything that you know regarding cozy mysteries. Just think it will be a new adventure for you. Good luck.

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Diana, so far I only have the Cozy Mystery site Facebook up. I’m not sure if I will venture into a private Facebook page. I spend a lot of time on the computer as it is, and imagine that if I started “talking” to all of my friends from my past I wouldn’t have enough time to do anything else.

  10. says

    We’re on the same wavelength–I created my first-ever Facebook page about the same time you did! (And I don’t really know what I’m doing, either…)

    I’d love to know how to connect my blog to FB, but there aren’t enough hours in the day to learn all this digital stuff. I’ll just start by “liking” your FB page and hope the old-timers will show us the way.


    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Susan, I’m guessing that it looks more complicated than it is. So many people are on Facebook, and I doubt all of them were computer science/engineering majors!

  11. says

    Oh dear! Please don’t abandon your lovely blog here!!!!!! For the quick-note-on-Facebook! Please… Please… Please… -sigh-

    I’ve stuck my toe in the water, in those “other” places… Facebook, Twitter, etc., etc. But my (“olden”) heart belongs to blogging.

    Please… Don’t abandon blogging… Please….


    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Tessa, my husband told me to add an update on this entry, which people will see if they read the entry after I posted it. Nothing will be changing here…

      “UPDATE: I just realized that maybe I wasn’t clear about my Facebook page. The Cozy Mystery site will not be affected at all, nor will the blog. I expect that I will be dabbling on Facebook, but this site is not going to change.”

  12. Judy E. says

    I am almost 72 and I do appreciate FB mainly because I have brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews and in laws who live all over the US and it’s a great way to stay in touch. Also with all the reading I do on my nook, I like to keep in touch with the authors and share with others readers. It took me a long time telling the children and grandchildren that I wanted nothing to do with it but I am enjoying it very much and try to be very careful what I put on FB. Finally broke down and let my husband buy me a nook and I have read so many books over the last two years it’s almost unbelievable. I’ve given up reading before that because I just was not able to read those small words and large print books are hard to find. Plus I’ve found so many great writers through my nook. Now, I don’t text or anything else but that’s only because I am too lazy to learn. I grew up without running water in the house, an outhouse, and no TV until I was 13 or 14 and I didn’t miss it because we didn’t have it, but I’m telling you I love everything I have today, my tv, vcr, computer, nook and my cell and an inside bathroom with running water. lol. But other than reading on my nook I try not to let everything else control my life because I have so many other interests in my life. Now I have to go and find you on FB. Have fun and good luck with it, Danna

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Judy E, the hesitancy your talk about regarding Facebook is sort of what I felt about getting a Kindle. I cannot believe that I held out so long before finally “letting” my husband get me one.

      I feel a little bit like this about Facebook. I’m not planning on doing a whole bunch on it, though, since I spend so much time on the Cozy Mystery site. We’ll see what develops…

    • Dottie says

      Judy E, I am 75 and everything you wrote sounds a lot like me. My Nook has been my best friend for the last two years, but recently I discovered Netflix so I have to divide my time between the two as I catch up on some of the old movies and TV series. I remember when I “discovered” the computer. Remember “booting up”? I love the new technology but will never forget how reading a book was my favorite pastime when I was young. My Mother could hardly drag me away to do chores, eat meals or go to bed.

      • Judy E. says

        Gee Dottie, here I thought that I was the only person who thought that my nook was my best friend. lol. I really love it. Even after two years I’m finding new things on it besides reading although that’s usually what I am doing with it. As far as FB goes I am still learning how to use it other than reading my news feed. My timeline is rather messy but I can’t figure out how to get it the way I want it. But it’s nice learning, just don’t care to spend a lot of time on it, just checking in once or twice a day to see what is happening. But the computer itself is wonderful, just to be able to look up anything that you are curious about. I like Netflix too, I think that’s what I watched to catch up with Downton Abbey, love the show and looking forward to Jan.5th for the 4th season. Yes even though I sometimes struggle with all the new technology (my husband just bought a Smart TV and I sure don’t know what is smart about it because I can’t figure out what to do with it but turn it on and off and change the channels), it has made my life a little easier and I have to admit a little more interesting.

        • Danna - cozy mystery list says

          Judy E, your husband’s Smart TV doesn’t sound as smart as it may think it is >>> if it can’t help you figure out how to work it! Every time my husband upgrades a technological thing in the house I complain that I don’t want to have to learn how to use it. Making the move from VCR to DVR was not something I did willingly!

          • Judy E. says

            Well it wouldn’t have been that bad but at the same time he bought that smart tv, (I still haven’t figured it out) our daughter surprised us with a Nintendo Wii to play games on. Now I have to turn the tv on with one remote, turn the cable box on with another, if I want to watch a dvd or video, I use another remote or if I want to play a game on the wii I must use the dvd remote. Well it is very confusing but I’m determined that I’m going to learn these things. lol. I also complain about it, I just become comfortable with something and feeling a little smart then I have to start over again. But they are a lot of fun I have to say.

  13. Karen says

    I’m one of the few people I know without a Facebook page. My husband and daughter are both on Facebook but I have felt no need for it. I have no desire to post a lot of personal information about myself and really don’t want to spend time reading the details of other people’s day to day lives. I still prefer seeing friends in person, if possible. I really object to what Facebook has done to the word “friend”. If you apply it to everybody you know, it becomes meaningless. I do have a Smartphone and am fairly techno savvy. But I still read print books and avoid Facebook. I don’t feel a need to adopt every new technology that appears. We all have to pick and choose the ones that enhance our lives. Clearly, I’m in the minority with Facebook but that’s OK. If it allows more people to find this wonderful website, then it’s done some good.

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Karen, I won’t be posting personal information, either. I won’t be telling people about what I ate for lunch, what my friend and I decided to do about getting together, or what color socks I’m wearing.

      I love that State Farm Insurance ad that shows a woman posting that she is on her way to Hawaii for a vacation, when one of her friends replies something like “have a good time.” They let you see her smiling friend wearing a burglar’s ski cap.

        • Danna - cozy mystery list says

          Judy, I thought the ad was really clever. I want to find it so that I can show it to my husband, which I thought would be easy to do since I never watch anything other than DVR taped, but now that I’m actually trying to find an ad, I can’t!

  14. Suzanne M says

    I’ve been on fb for a few years now, I joined at my niece’s request so we could keep in touch with her husband who was on his 2nd tour in Iraq, and since they move around because of his service to our country it is easier to keep in touch with her and the kids. But I must say that I can’t believe what people will say and post, don’t they realize that once it is out there it stays there? I limit what I put on it, I must admit though that our phone bill has gone down since joining and when my husband underwent heart surgery I have to admit that it was kind of special to see my nephew and all his friends who while deployed sent my hubby get well wishes and pics. It is also fun to see my niece’s daughter’s ballet pics and how big her son is getting. Maybe tech isn’t so bad.

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Suzanne M, what a great idea it is to stay in touch with an extended family that is separated by distance. I hadn’t thought about how wonderful it is for the men and women who have been deployed.

  15. Sheila says

    I have a facebook account but I’m not a big fan of it. I put as little info on it as possible. I just use it to keep in touch with people who aren’t in the area.

    • Sheila says

      Forgot. I heard that Facebook is going to have advertisements on their site (like I don’t get enough of those in my email).

      • Danna - cozy mystery list says

        Sheila, I thought that’s how the founder made so much money. I guess I assumed they already had ads…

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Sheila, I acquiesced to a Cozy Mystery Facebook account, but I haven’t gone the personal account yet.

    • Dottie says

      Sheila, keeping up with all the extended family happenings is pretty much all I do with FB. And that includes local as well as distant. Although I seldom post on FB myself, I love keeping up with what everyone else is doing. I do miss having the more personal touch of one on one communication, either through visits or by phone, but everybody is so busy anymore.

      • Danna - cozy mystery list says

        Dottie, now that cell phones just about offer a gazillion minutes, it’s a shame that nobody has the time to talk on them. I remember when you had to pay to talk to someone (long distance) by the minute… I agree that it’s a whole lot more fun to make actual contact with a friend/loved one.

  16. says

    I will find you on FB and friend you or fan you or whatever is available. I’m on FB, but I don’t use it very often…

    That’s me on FB.

    We got a cell phone about two years ago. It’s not smart. It’s one of those pay as you go. If you use it for the day, you pay the whole day. We don’t use it often. It does take pictures, usually of my feet or my pocket, because I accidentally push a button when I’m trying to get it out or open it up…

    I’m even pretty technical, but I can be a bit of a dork!

    Off to find you!

  17. dana says

    Congratulations! Although my personal opinion, (even though I check it often), is it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be since there have been so many changes.

    Be proud of being set in ways. My mom still has dial up for internet connection!

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Thanks, Dana, I’m not quite sure about Facebook. I don’t seem to be able to organize things the way I would like them to be. I’m guessing that with time I’ll learn how to move things about. Anyway, I hope so. (Being a little obsessive-compulsive, I prefer to organize things my way.

  18. Julia says

    I’m not an early technology adopter; never have been. I didn’t get a CD player until the late 90s, only got a DVD player because my best friend bought me one for Christmas one year, and until 4 years ago I drove a car with a cassette player in it. The car I had 5 years before that didn’t even have a cassette player, but I was thrilled its radio actually got FM stations.

    I didn’t get on Facebook until about 5 years ago, and then not regularly until I got a smartphone (I work on computers all day – I’m really not much for surfing in the evenings). I love it now, though, because it allows me to reconnect with old friends I haven’t seen since high school, or even junior high. Just last week I had dinner with a friend I hadn’t seen since partway through 8th grade (I won’t say how many decades ago that was; suffice it to say, more than one). Until Facebook I’d had no idea she moved back into the area and lived maybe 15 minutes away from where I work.

    I love my smartphone, too. I resisted getting one for a long time because I so rarely used my cell. Ultimately I had to get one for work, and I can’t tell you how helpful it has been while traveling. Between access to the internet for information on weather, accomodations and dining options, to the GPS and Bing navigation that let me actually get to these places, I can’t say enough good things about that phone I used to insist I didn’t need.

    • Danna - cozy mystery list says

      Julia, if it weren’t for my husband, I’d probably be doing exactly what you are, regarding being happy with FM radio and CDs.

      That’s incredible about your friend living only 15 minutes from your workplace.

      I will take the very last part of your comment to say this is exactly how I feel about my Kindle: ” I can’t say enough good things about that phone (Kindle) I used to insist I didn’t need.” I may be following in your footsteps by getting a smartphone some day. I was a hold-out for my Kindle, and I can’t imagine reading my books without it (or playing my MahJong and Sudoku).

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